(btw, I'm responding to your article because your perspective is different than mine and you've written it reasonably. There are so many articles whose perspective was different than mine, but they were written in a way that made me feel like I couldn't reason with the author. So, I just ignored the article and moved on)

You don't know this. As you said, you feel like she is. At any rate, their conflicting testamonies guarantees that someone is lying. If you believe Amber, doesn't that mean you think Johnny is lying? How does that make you any different than the people that think Amber is lying?

For me, at this point, I wouldn't be surprised if Amber or Johnny were the primary abuser. Or even as their marriage counselor said, the abuse was mutual. I've seen and heard enough of the testimony to know they both played a part in a toxic marraige.

I think it's easy to fall back on old/young and rich/less rich observations when it comes to power dynamic. The marriage counselor observed early on that Amber would dominate arguments by over talking Johnny. That's doesn't indicate to me that there was an imbalance of power. Also, Johnny's substance abuse problem left him vulnerable which also plays into the power dynamic. I feel like she exploited his substance abuse problems so she could shame and control him.

Men can be abuse victims too.