Women are guilty of misuse here as well. Years ago, after suffering from emotional abuse from a girlfriend, I confronted her. Her excuse, “Oh, I didn’t realize you had feelings.” Men are often expected to suck it up. If we accuse our other of hurting our feelings, we are often told we are being babies and that we should just endure it. Many women (#notallwomen :) ) are not conditioned to respect our feelings, quite the opposite. They are taught to disregard them.