Thanks, and I do like non binary as an identity.

Well, I'm glad. I know it isn't easy. In fact, I'm sure it is often difficult I will never disparage you for your gender. (or race or anything like that).

If your definition of hateful is siding with the oppressed and applaud when they fight back, I'm definitely hateful. In fact, all my spiritual mentors have been hated and are considered hateful (usually by majorities who side with opressors). They are so hateful they were murdered: Marielle Franco, Malcolm X, Tiradentes, and many more.

Fight your oppressor, sure. If you consider someone your oppressor because of some immutable characteristic that they have (like being a dude), then don't date them. Don't show up to a date and take advantage of them as "reparations", ffs.