Sometimes women get resentful having an unfair burden in household tasks. I can see how that might lead to intimacy issues (as all resentments do). However, if you are intentionally withholding sex to punish your husband or to make him behave the way you think he should, that's pretty toxic too. Ideally love isn't supposed to be transactional like that. If meet all my expectations this week, maybe I'll love you.

Additionally, partners who are unable to see their own faults in relationships are incapable of addressing those faults. They are doomed to repeat the same mistakes over and over.