Look, I agree that domestic violence is a gendered issue, and a troubling one. However, if you look at violent crime statistics more broadly (including non-domestic context), men are 3 times more likely to die from homicide. If you look back at the paragraph that I highlighted, the differentiator was not domestic vs non domestic. It was that the violence was male on male. My post is not a what-aboutism counter to domestic violence. Men are the primary perpetuators of domestic violence, agreed. I am pointing out how dismissive that one paragraph is about men's experience of violence.

On Medium, I see many women post that men don't understand what it's like to be afraid of being assaulted. We do! I learned that fear in the school yard at a young age and it has never left me. Men are conditioned to never acknowledge that fear. Why? It makes them looks weak, inviting assault. Why do you think gay men experience hate crime more than lesbian? It's because homosexuality is perceived by homophobics as a weakness. If men perceived as weak they are attacked by other men. The idea that men do not live in fear of violence is a faulty one. Men around the world experience violence at a greater rate than women do and we don't talk about it BECAUSE we're afraid. Your counter? Well, it's male on male. Thanks for that.