I am sorry for what you are going through. Divorce is heart breaking. I hope that you get through it without suffering unnecessarily. However, I'm not your husband or like him. I am not in competition with my wife. I'm supportive of my wife. I'm sure that I have my own gender bias that I need to work through. I'm not perfect, but I do try. You are projecting his faults and failures on all men. Like many women, many men feel compelled to provide for their families out of love. To suggest that we go to so much trouble simply to feed our egos is misguided. Sure we have egos, and many of us can be pig headed and arrogant. Regardless, many men want their wife and children to feel safe and happy and they want them to thrive. We, like you, are human.