Hypergamy does not lead to gender equality. It does the opposite. A man is likely to use the rationale that if he's paying for everything, the least you can do is a little house work. I am not saying that is fair. However, that is what you can expect from a man that feels like his role is to pay the bills.

If you want a more egalitarian relationship, then be more egalitarian. 50/50 means 50/50. If you're dating a man who says he's a 50/50 man and he's not pulling his weight, call him out on it. Forcing men into provider roles is oppressive just like forcing women into homemaker roles. It is a component of the culture of toxic masculinity that is harmful to men and women.

I personally would not have a partner that was unwilling to share dating or living expenses. Last thing I need is another dependent.