He's made a good point here. Men aren't solely to blame for the Men vs Women narrative. Reading your article, it really looks like that's what your saying. You don't call out women for their behaviors, just men. If you agree that "Men are trash" is contributing to that, why did you not include that in your article? You say that's not Feminism, but that phrase was popularized by Feminists in the wake of the #MeToo movement. It may not be part of the core philosophy in the Feminists movement but it is closely associated (if not integral) to the culture of Feminism. That along with other phrases: "Kill All Men", "Drink Male Tears" and "I hate men" are consider acceptable by many in the Feminist community.

Here is a list of articles with on 'Men are Trash' topic. Most of them are women who claim to be Feminists justifying the use of the term in the context of Feminism:

https://medium.com/tag/men-are-trash

So, bottom line, men are not solely responsible for the Gender Wars. Both men and women contribute to that narrative.

There are countless other articles that are critical of men (including yours) that contribute to this narrative.