Good for you. You shouldn't feel like you have to do it. I've been a provider for 20 years. If I were single again that would stop. I would be looking for someone who can take care of themselves. Honestly, it's not about the money. The notion that a man has to pay for the date sends a message that some how his company has less value than hers. So if she doesn't even offer to split the bill, it says a lot about who she is and what she thinks of you.