This is my perspective as a man who has a job. I've been married for about 20 years, so I don't really have any skin in the game.

First of all, to be clear, just having a job isn't good enough for you. You want a man who makes 6 figures. 6 figures isn't rich. It's barely upper middle class. However, at your age it is ambitious.

Yes women are attracted to men with ambition. Men are different though. Ambition doesn't rank that high for men. Don't expect that your ambition alone will attract ambitious men. Sad to say, many men will be happier dating your assistant, if she is better looking.

Why is that? First of all, men have accepted that they cannot be hypergamous. Unlike women, men do not gain any status for their partner's success. Instead they take on more pressure to earn as much or more than her. It's kind of like height, men don't like to date women taller than them because it makes them feel short. Everything is relative. A man may feel successful if he has a good job and he's dating your assistant. Relative to her, he's a breadwinner. Relative to you, he's only achieved the bare minimum if he's making 100K or more.

Regardless, there is no reason why you shouldn't be able to date and marry a man who makes as much money as you do. I think that's fair. However, as you make more and more money, it will be harder for you to achieve, fair or not.