Don't try to be in the top 20%. This causes you to constantly compare yourself to others. Pretend you don't know about the 80/20 rule. It doesn't help you to know about it. Outside of Tinder, men and women with similar looks and socio-economic backgrounds tend to find each other. IOW, men below the "20%" (whatever that is) find partners all the time. Stop using Tinder and just go about your life trying to be the best version of you. Everything else will fall into place eventually. Find women that you admire (looks, character and intelligence) through normal social circles and your own cultivated interests. Be patient.