"But my issue is that when women talk about what they want or expect financially, they are called golddiggers."

In long term relationships, it is very important to be able to have straight talk about money. It took so long for my wife and I to be able to talk about it without stigma, and it caused us a lot of strife. Behind the money differences there are real differences in values and priorities that have to be aligned. Once those things are resolved, the money part is just math.