Both. To be fair, it's been a while. I'm married. I'll try to remember what it's like.

My first reaction to rejection is emotional. I feel I've been judged and found lacking. I feel defensive and of course I questioned "Well, who does she think she is?". It's really a matter of processing the fear of not measuring up. Once I recognize emotion and the fear, and I've calmed down, I tried go back and review what happened dispassionately and put it into context with my lived experience. I tried to learn from it. I tried to see what I did wrong and tried to figure out if I needed to do anything different. I also might have needed to adjust my expectations. I gave that consideration as well. I really should completely process a rejection before I attempt to ask someone else out.