At this point we're probably just going to start talking past one one another. I haven't embraced the Robin DiAngelo's White Fragility thing. For you to use the same rationale to justify using hateful rhetoric towards men is just not going to resonate with me. In short, I do not feel guilty for being white or being a man. I was born that way and I had no say in it. I don't feel that because I'm white and male that I'm obligated to endure hateful rhetoric. If you don't feel like it's your job as a marginalized person to treat me with the same courtesy that you expect from me, well we're just going to have to agree to disagree.